Are you the man who...
→ Feels stuck in survival patterns, anger, withdrawal, emotional shutdownÂ
→ Wants to break free from emotional reactions that sabotage his relationships
→ Keeps repeating cycles of disconnection, addiction or emotional isolationÂ
→ Find yourself people pleasing, avoiding conflict or needing to control to feel secure
→ Is committed to becoming the grounded father, partner, and man his family can trust and respectÂ
→ Knows he's capable of more, but feels blocked, exhausted or on auto pilot
If this speaks to you — you already know: This work is for you
Why This Matters?
In Australia and New Zealand, the statistics are heavy — Relationship breakdowns, fractured families, and absent fathers are leaving a trail of men broken, isolated, and lost. Too many men carry wounds they were never taught how to heal and instead wear masks just to get through the week.
Behind the rising male suicide rates and men suffering in silence lies a common thread:
→ Men who were raised by emotionally unavailable fathers. Taught strength meant suppression
→ A culture of men who silence their needs, lack emotional language and an ability to understand or process their emotions.Â
→ Men operating in survival mode — until they can’t hold their mask on any longer and break down
→ Men afraid of seeking support, how it makes them feel as a man, in fear of failing and effortlessly trying to solve it themselves.
This program is for the men who are ready to change the story for themselves, their families, and the communities who desperately need them. Â
Inside every man is a boy who learned to survive — through anger, withdrawal, shutdown, or fighting back. But survival patterns won’t build the life you’re here to create. They won’t build the father you want to be. They won’t build the man your family needs.
The Emotional Leadership Program is a 12-week training designed to transform the way you lead yourself.  You will build the emotional strength, self regulation, and leadership required to live, love, and lead powerfully — internally and externally.
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JOIN THE NEXT ROUND
When you sign up and commit to 'The Emotional Leadership' Program, you’re not just enrolling in a program—you’re investing in a massive life shift.
This program will equip you with the edge, one that comes from understanding yourself on an exceptionally deep level. Imagine being able to identify where all your behaviour patterns originate, understanding how to reshape them to craft the life you truly want.Â
By completing this program, you will gain invaluable insights into yourself that most never realise in their lifetime. You will learn how to pivot away from unhelpful habits and towards positive practices that support your goals. Whether it’s excelling in your career, becoming the kind of father, you aspire to be, or being a peaceful and loving partner.
This program gives you the tools to succeed
→ Heal the wounded boy inside and rebuild emotional safety from within.Â
→ Build self-leadership through emotional regulation, awareness, and disciplined action.
→ Break survival patterns like avoidance, anger, shutdown, or people-pleasing
 → Master emotional intensity without being ruled by it.
→ Lead yourself, your partner, your family, and your life from a place of grounded strength.
 → Develop foundational skills for connection, healthy communication, and managing disconnection.
→ Navigate conflict powerfully without damaging the ones you love.
→ Learn how to meet your core needs as a man without outsourcing your worth to others.
→ Build a clear daily roadmap — aligned actions that forge the man you choose to become.
Brother, here’s the real truth
You don’t rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your emotional leadership. It’s time to raise the man you lead yourself as — and everything around you will rise with you.
DEVELOPING SELF AWARENESS
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Everything begins with awareness. Most men are living on autopilot, reacting instead of responding to it. In this phase we teach men how to tune into their inner world, identify patterns and slow down enough to understand their thoughts, feelings and behaviours.
UNDERSTANDING MALE ARCHETYPES
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Every man carries unconscious roles - like the fixer, the lone wolf or the people pleaser. These are survival strategies, not identities. This phase helps men recognise the masks they've been wearing and understand how those patterns are impacting their relationships, life and self worth.
REBUILDING THE ATTACHMENT SYSTEM
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How a man connects (or avoids connection) didn't start in adulthood, it began in childhood. This phase helps men understand their attachment style, the fear behind the closeness or distance, and how to build safer, more secure relationships.
HEALING YOUR INNER CHILD
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Under every overreaction is a younger part of us that didn't feel safe, seen or supported. In this phase we reconnect with the boy inside the man, the one still carrying shame, unmet needs and emotional scars.
EMOTIONAL REGULATION
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You cant lead your life if you cant lead your nervous system. This phase gives men tools to stay calm under pressure, handle emotional storms and build the capacity to hold space for themselves and others without lashing out or breaking down.
RELATIONSHIPS AND COMMUNICATION
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Connection requires skill not just love. In this phase, men learn how to communicate with clarity, honesty and presence. Whether its with a partner, child or coworker, we show men how to bring strength and softness into the same place. They will get an in depth understanding of what creates disconnection and guide them back to a healthy conscious place.
CONFLICT NAVIGATION
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Most men were never shown how to deal with conflict in a healthy way. They avoid it, explode in it, or lack the ability to hold it. This phase teaches men how to stay regulated, speak their truth, repair after ruptures and navigate pressure without losing connection or control.
This program was built around you. Not theory. Not trends. YOU.Â
Most programs feed you content, tick a few boxes, and leave you to figure the rest out. That’s not this. We’re not here to throw you a workbook and wish you luck.
We built this around your real life—the pressure, the guilt, the emotional weight you’ve been dragging for years as a man, a father, and a partner.
At the core of this journey is your roadmap.
That means getting brutally honest about who you are, what’s been running the show behind the scenes, and what it actually takes to lead yourself and your family with clarity and strength—especially when life hits hard.
Every week, we dive in live on Zoom. No hiding. No passive learning. Just straight-up coaching, conversation, and transformation led by Watene and Alan.
And then there’s the weekend workshops.
2 days. 4 hours each. Immersive, intense, and deeply personal. These aren’t lectures. These are confrontations—with the stories you’ve been stuck in, the patterns that sabotage you, and the man you say you want to be.
Bring all of it, Your anger. Your shame. Your disconnection. Your doubts. We don’t push it aside—we go straight into it, because that’s where the real work lives.
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 A Framework Men Can Trust Â
The Amend 12-Week Program isn’t based on guesswork or surface-level advice. It’s built on a powerful combination of evidence-based psychological therapies, integrated into a masculine, practical framework that speaks directly to the real challenges men face.Â
Every stage of the program draws from The Amend Therapeutic Change Framework™
 These are time-tested systems used in clinical and trauma-informed settings to help people build emotional regulation, secure relationships, and long-term behavioural change.
Learn more about our framework used inside this program
Ideal for: Independent men, time-poor dads, FIFO workers, or those new to inner work who need flexibility
Delivery Mode: Online course portal with video modules, digital workbooks, and optional community access
Ideal for: Men craving structure, live connection, therapist support, and deeper accountability
Delivery Mode: Weekly 90–120 min Zooms + weekend live online workshops + community support group
Facilitated by:Â Watene Waenga and Alan Ward
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If you truly desire change bro, I promise you this is the best program and coaching in the country - this will change your life.
